It will be 3 years now that I have been settled in my Punjabi Bagh house and have seen things change and learnt a lot. Being at home has changed the social bird in me to the more homely and concerned type of girl. Somebody who notices the dirt around the vase, someone who checks if the veggies are fresh to somebody who haggles with the dhoban about the price of an ironed sheet. Such are the lessons learnt by me during these 3 years. Take a trip inside the things I have learnt from home in the past couple of years:
1. You can work from home. I have learnt in the past 2 years that it is both easy and difficult to work from home. Easy: Because I can start working without taking a shower and can log off right before hitting the pillow.
Difficult: Because family obligations tie up work sometimes.
2. Things break down in the house.: This is one of the biggest lesson learnt in these past years. All the little nuisances that I never knew existed before crop up now. The leaky faucet, the broken shelf, the car audio: everything needs repair in the same day and everything has to be managed by you.
3. You can be a free Assistant for your husband: From booking his train tickets to depositing his cheques to paying all bills to getting his car serviced, it is all a thankless job. You are a free assistant to the man you married. Kudos to juggling everything.
4. Money flows at the pace of water: Outward flow, of course. As singles, one never knows how much money is spent in the daily working of a house. Well, now, after 3 years of trying to control finances, I realise there is no way to increase inflows and decrease outflows.
5. Parents are a blessing: Mothers, more so. This is something that all girls realise the moment they get married. For me, having a great mother in law slowed the process but the importance of parents hits you when the first fight happens and you are abandoned mid way.
6. Family and Friends, who to choose? : As singles, this question never crops up as friends are what you choose all the time. The equation changes once married and priorities need to be decided at almost every step of life.
7. It's all good at the end: The faulty kitchen sink, the work overload and the massive cooking strain, everything can be managed if the smile that matters finds you at the right spot. Yes, things look bright even if the daal you made was too watery because you had work on your mind if the one smile that matters the most makes its appearance. Perseverance, maybe has been the biggest lesson of them all and things fall in place for even the most turmoil of married lives.
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